Giving a Eulogy

Giving a Eulogy

It's been said that one of people's biggest fears is public speaking. Add to that the stress of grief, and it becomes clear that giving a eulogy can be very difficult for some people. The Ontario Funeral Service Association offers the following tips for keeping your composure while accomplishing an emotional task. Remember:

•     The funeral is for those grieving.
•     Use the deceased's name.
•     Speak about the unique qualities of that person; you may include family history, important career or personal highlights, etc.
•     Keep your eulogy brief enough to say what you need to say and to ease the pain of those present; no need to talk for any great length of time.
•     You can use different forms of technology (computer, music, video, etc.)
•     It's okay to use humour (but keep it appropriate!) - people enjoy hearing about the anecdotes that are part of our lives.
•     Be sincere.
•     Consult with family and clergy to determine their desires and any possible restrictions in the service itself.
•     If you become upset when giving a eulogy, take a moment to compose yourself; everyone will understand.
•     If you feel you are simply not up to speaking, it's okay to ask the clergy or another person to read it for you